Misgendering refers to addressing or referring to someone using pronouns or gender terms that don't align with their gender identity. In some debates, particularly around transgender youth, questions have arisen about whether consistent misgendering by parents should be considered a form of emotional abuse and grounds for loss of custody. Proponents argue that persistent misgendering can cause significant psychological harm to transgender children, and in severe cases, may justify state intervention to protect the child’s well-being. Opponents argue that removing custody over misgendering infringes on parental rights, may criminalize disagreement or confusion over gender identity, and could lead to overreach by the state into family matters.
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@ISIDEWITH1yr1Y
No
@B8QHWFG5mos5MO
A strong counterargument to the “No” position on misgendering—that is, the view that misgendering is not harmful or not worth addressing—is that accurate gender recognition is a basic form of respect that supports people’s dignity, autonomy, and social belonging, much like using someone’s correct name; repeatedly denying a person’s stated identity communicates that their understanding of themselves is invalid, which research and lived experience both show can contribute to stress, social exclusion, and poorer mental-health outcomes, especially for transgender and nonbinary individuals who already face disproportionate discrimination.
@B4LLFY41yr1Y
You are robing your child of their birthrights and their ability to live their life the way God made them to be. If you have the mindset to do something so cruel, how can you be trusted in raising this child in a healthy environment? I believe that parents should lose custody for intentionally misgendering their child.
@B9WGZVF3mos3MO
Parents shoudnt be allowed to gender there child something else just because they wanted a daughter instead of a son you basically telling your kid we wanted a daughter instead of you
When we repeatedly use the wrong pronouns for someone, the equivalent word in Chinese is "discrimination"."What's behind this gender discrimination?We all know how calling a gay man ladyboy is disrespectful; we also understand why some people don't want their natural gender roles and clothes to be decided by fashion magazines or television broadcasts.Misrepresenting a person is not a matter of personal truth but can have serious consequences for the victim's mental health, sense security from their family community, or respectability in society.If I call you by your right name today, get nothing for it and you don't even remember tomorrow. But if fail to do so then tomorrow you may be getting in trouble all the way instead of me.
@ISIDEWITH1yr1Y
Yes
@B8QHWFG5mos5MO
Misgendering has profound negative effects on mental health, particularly for transgender and nonbinary individuals. Research shows that frequent misgendering is linked to increased anxiety, depression, and higher rates of suicidal thoughts and attempts. A 2020 study revealed that nonbinary people who were misgendered more frequently reported significantly higher levels of psychological distress. Furthermore, when transgender individuals were able to express their gender identity (through correct names and pronouns), their risk for suicidal ideation decreased by 71%. Misgendering undermines… Read more
@B4LLFY41yr1Y
Parents should lose custody for intentionally misgendering their child because you are setting them up for a life of confusion, failure, mental and physical health problems. You are essentially putting their life at risk.
I support acting on misgender as a serious problem. However, because research shows trans and non-binary people are depressed or anxiety controlled. If you think about it this way: When you remember next week that you respected someone's pronouns, it makes their mental health better and more secure
@B8952WY6mos6MO
No, but it should be seen as a form of child abuse and require mandatory diversity training and therapy to protect the child in their home and allow families to grow together with understanding
@B84K83K6mos6MO
If they do that and possibly harm the child in any way, shape or form. Be it mentally, psychologically or physically. Then yes, the parent should lose their custody of the child
depends on situation. if it's a way of abusing their child, then yes. otherwise, it should depend on boundaries established by the child.
I think it should be dealt with on a case-by-case basis. If the child is endangered as a result, then yes. If they would like to leave the custody of their guardian(s), then yes.
No, but if prolonged intentional hate towards the child results in intense emotional distress, they should lose custody
@B5X7L7Q10mos10MO
Yes, but only if they refuse to participate in educational courses to better understanding transgender people and allyship, or continue to misgender their child after doing so.
@B897NG96mos6MO
No but I believe that if there was less anti-trans rhetoric being pushed this wouldn't be as much of a problem.
@B8CV2BBNew Democratic6mos6MO
this is often a sign of deeper issues between parent and child it should be a sign to look for other mistreatments of the child that could lead to parents losing custody of the child
@B63GL9310mos10MO
It depends on if the child believes they should be removed or not, but the parent should be required to correctly gender the child.
If its coming from a position of genuine malice towards a youths gender identity then yes. But if the intentional misgendering is coming from a place of denial or grief at what the parent thinks they have list then no.
@rileyr0312mos12MO
Yes, but only following a psychologist’s evaluation of the child and an investigation into the parents
@B7QY29Q7mos7MO
Please do. I have seen the effects of this first hand. I had a trans male friend, who's dad would only call him she, it did tremendous damage to his mental health. It angers me to an extreme extent that this is not considered abuse.
@BBFTYPP2mos2MO
Depends... Allowing children to "become trans" in it's self is misgendering them. Gender dysphoria needs to be treated, not encouraged/celebrated. Too many parents have "trans babies"... ie: Munchausen by Proxy.
maybe not lose custody if once or a few minute times, but if they have a past of abusive behaviour and this is frequent then this should be considered as a part of a cps case
@B9WRND53mos3MO
I think that the child should have to wait until they are adults and they can emancipate themselves if this is a persistent issue that is detrimental to their mental health.
@B9PXV9W3mos3MO
Depends on the circumstances and severity. As in all situations involving children. Children should and need to be protected for the politics and taboos of adulthood.
@B9LSLY83mos3MO
This depends on a few things, if its genuinely hurting the young person and its on there behalf yes, if its a request from someone else or the young person doesnt feel unsafe then no.
@B9KTLV44mos4MO
Genders are determined by what genitalia you are born with and should be addressed as such. Other wise we are talking about mental illness.
@B9D3CYZ4mos4MO
Nuanced, I understand there may be religious implications of only recognizing two genders, but their child should receive unconditional support
@B944ZY54mos4MO
I believe if intentionally bullying or coercing the child in a malicious manner than yes you should lose custody.
@B8Y4D6D5mos5MO
It depends. If a parent is purposely discriminating and humiliating their child, there is more than likely would be some form of abuse and should be looked into.
@B8Q2NFW 5mos5MO
No, however their parents are being discriminatory, and any abuse that goes beyond this due to their gender identity should constitute losing custody.
@B7BKTN77mos7MO
Situation Dependent: Arises the question "Should a child be able to decide their sexual and gender identity?"
@B76YM7F8mos8MO
I think its a lot more complicated than that. if it is ongoing and intentionally harming the child then yes possibly but there needs to be a process.
@B6ZSBZ98mos8MO
It's almost cruel to not accept your child for who they are. But as long as the kid is in safe hands, unfortunately I think the kid should stay.
@B6WR9KK8mos8MO
No, but if the parents are abusive emotionally, phyiscally, etc about the child's gender identity then yes
@B65CK4T9mos9MO
No, they should undergo many mental test to ensure that they will no longer affect the decisions of their child, and if they persist to do so then yes.
@B62Y883Bloc Québécois10mos10MO
If they make them change , they change to their Aunts or Uncles . If it was just a pronoun or conjugation mix up , absolutely not !
@rileyesc 12mos12MO
Yes, but only kids 14 years of age or older and following a Children's Aid investigation into the parents.
It’s not automatic, but repeated misgendering can be a form of abuse. Generally I don’t support removing kids from custody; however, in a separation, supporting a child’s gender should favour custody.
@B56FD971yr1Y
no, but they should face punishment in form of a fine, and the child should be told of their parents' actions (if they are old enough to understand)
@B53VRKC1yr1Y
No - but they should have to attend some sessions with a gender therapist to get an understanding of their child. If the misgendering continues, then we can look at custody.
@B53NKFM1yr1Y
This is a more nuanced issue than “yes/no” and requires more context and background in order to answer.
@B53GP6R1yr1Y
yes but only provided the child has reported or shown evidence of a persistence pattern of emotional and psychogical abuse
I don’t think they should lose custody but I do they they should try to be inclusive. And if they are actively hurting their kids then yes they should lose custody
@B52VSFR1yr1Y
maybe i mixed on this one. one the one hand if the parent is homophobic i can understand but if the parent accidentally misgendering you i don't think they have to lose custody of their kids
@B4Z73QN1yr1Y
Yes, after a family counsellor has attempted to convince the parents to at least make an effort to be more open to their child's identity.
A child below 18 should not have the ability to decide their gender, as their brains are still developing.
@B4YYBRT1yr1Y
No, but if the child does not feel safe in the environment due to it, they should have a say in who they stay with
No at first but, they should be required to do parental diversity training and if they still do it after then yes
@B4M2Q3L1yr1Y
Hard to agree because for some foster care might be even worse than their parents so in terms of harm reduction I'm unsure
@B4LZ3J41yr1Y
I think there needs to be more nuance here to consider what is best for the child considering how useless our foster care is in helping kids
@B4LT4951yr1Y
While misgendering your child is terrible I don’t think it alone should be enough reason for a parent to lose custody. If a parent misgenders their child along with other forms of abuse then they definitely should.
@B4LP6BK1yr1Y
If the child is below the age of 16 and is trying to you have a choice but over 16 you should follow what they ask for
@B4LL2P81yr1Y
No, but it should be noted, and potentially investigated for abuse in other aspects of the child's life
@B4LKBD41yr1Y
Case by case - this is more nuanced. I believe parents should call children their preferred names and gender
@B4KYCD21yr1Y
This isn't inherently horrible, I believe if the process in which they continuously misgenger their child creating psychological turmoil then they should be taken away. But parents need time to change as well
@B4KXH4L1yr1Y
If prolonged intentional misgendering then yes- serious risk of harm to child. Would need more parameters on this q.
This issue cannot be simplified to a one sentence statement. The parents don’t need to lose custody they need to be educated first.
Parents should be given opportunity to educate themselves and work on accepting their child’s identity but children should be protected from emotional/physical stress. This depends on the situation and the child’s mental state.
No, but there should be some programs (or perhaps therapies) put into place that would assist and educate parents on LGBTQIA+ issues and the effects misgendering has on their child.
@B4KTDTR1yr1Y
parents need education and children need safety. if both can’t be met, then child should be in a safe place away from said parent.
@B4KR9Y81yr1Y
Slippery slope to loose custody - but there needs to be better education around these issues so less parents are intolerant parents.
@B4KQVFG1yr1Y
Education and therapy. Not taking the kids away and putting them in the system that hurts them as well.
@B4KPXB71yr1Y
It should be considered emotional abuse but removing custody should be a last resort, as in all child protection cases.
@B4KMQ3C1yr1Y
Losing custody is extreme as a child being placed into the foster care system/in the care of another guardian due to this might not be a healthier situation for the child however, an issue like this should require education of the parents as doing this intentionally is incredibly harmful/invalidating for the child.
@B4KHYS51yr1Y
Losing custody is too severe there should be some other short of punishment to ensure that it won't happen again. However if the new punishment happens to the same person multiple times then they should lose custody.
@B4KG6HT1yr1Y
Losing custody seems harsh and family dynamics are complicated. I think it's wrong for a parent to do this, but losing custody seems like a third strike move
@B4K8DD71yr1Y
If the child is of age they should receive a psychological evaluation to determine if social media has played a part in misgendering themselves,
@B4JY4P71yr1Y
I think their could be an increase in social workers/programs that concerned school authorities/police/other family members could report concerns to for home checks to determine any abuse case or not (and if signs of abuse, then remove the child).
even though the child is being misgendered, it is not against costody rights or the law, its a family and opinionated ordeal
@B7QJV6CNew Democratic 7mos7MO
Not for misgendering itself but for misgendering in an abusive context (such as doing it when the child is clearly expressing distress or as a means of control)
@B7PFCP37mos7MO
It depends. I say yes and no. Yes, because if your child really wants to be that gender, and you purposely misgender them on many occasions. And no, if you say you're sorry and try to understand them, then you shouldn't lose your kid.
@B7FQW2M7mos7MO
No, but there should be checks on the mental state or health of the child in an environment where the child does not feel the need to lie due to potential pressure from their parents.
@B4VB3F31yr1Y
It depends on if the child has been diagnosed with gender dysphoria or not and the circumstances of the individual case
@B4SXKQ91yr1Y
No they should be provided education and counselling related to the affects of their actions, and then be evaluated going forward
@B4MYRBK1yr1Y
They should not default lose custody, but this should be considered as a form of abuse that can be taken into consideration when discussing custody issues.
@B4M4Y521yr1Y
Parents should be mandated to meet with a family councillor to evaluate the instance of abuse outside of misgendering. If the parents attempt to forcefully restrict the child’s self determination in other ways, then removal could be considered.
@B4LH76L1yr1Y
No, but there should be more resources and options for the child, like access for them to call someone to help them talk to their parents and if the parents don’t respect that then further actions could be in place
@B4LBJPC1yr1Y
like they shouldn't lose custody because its not like abuse but they should be put in like a parenting class and learn to respect there child no matter what
@B4LBD5X1yr1Y
No, but the parents must be held accountable for their actions and should be educated. A child loosing a parent and entering the foster care system/social system harms the child and is not a positive or productive solution.
Not lose custody but I think there should be some repercussions to this. It will affect the child’s mental health in a negative way.
@B4LCS541yr1Y
Losing custody is too severe. But intentionally misgendering a child at birth or before the child can speak for themselves is not right. It should not be allowed, possible or even given as an option.
@B4KZYKT1yr1Y
I do not agree with that at all but that should not mean they have there child kidnapped. It is there child .
@B89F54Q6mos6MO
Only if they cause bodily harm to the child such as through genital mutilation, gender reassignment surgery, or hormone programs.
Dangerous Fad
Gender is just the latest social contagion. Playing along with mental delusions is not going to help your child. Allowing social transition fast tracks your child towards surgeries so unless you favour sterilizing the mentally ill you should avoid playing along with the gender nonsense.
@mintybudgie1yr1Y
yes and no
this is a little bit more of a yes and no situation, simply because in a way it seems fitting to make parents lose custody but it also seems way too harsh
@mintybudgie1yr1Y
yes and no
this is a little bit more of a yes and no situation, simply because in a way it seems fitting to make parents lose custody but it also seems way too harsh
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